Last night Miss L and I talked quite a bit. I know, hard to fathom but just believe me.
The subject of me being a romantic optimist (as in romanticizing not optimistic of romance) came up. As expected, I've been obsessing over the conversation. It was about me; what would you expect?
Why am I a RO?
Optimism is the single greatest gift my mother gave me. Granted, I think I asked for the Star Wars Death Star playset that year but that doesn't matter.
She was an optimist in the truest sense. Luckily, my Dad gave me realism. That makes me a romantic optimistic realist? Put that in your smoker and cure it.
Reality is; it just Is. Reality happens and there is not a damn thing I can do about it. I know it, I embrace it and live it. I can do many things but have yet mastered the art of bending reality to my will.
I cannot change reality... (I'm working on it... so stay tuned. I will probably sell it on Ebay)
Seeing I cannot change reality, I choose to take complete juristiction over how I perceive it. I can control how I digest the reality that surrounds me. I believe people are inherently good. I believe people do very bad things. I believe there are bad people but the are the exceptions, they are the oddities. I believe good people can do bad things. Good people do bad things knowing they are bad. Good people do bad things that they thought would be good things too.
Let me explain, that will take to long; let me sum up (two cookies if you can reference that line):
As a rule, people are good and they do the best they can.
To make my coffee even sweeter (in a make-your-stomach upset sort of way), I am also a romantic.
I believe in love, karma and right and wrong. I often see the gray and understand it. I then make it black or white by my own standards. I can do nothing with gray, I make it black or white so I can move forward.
I see an unbendable reality and choose to look at it with colored shades. Whatever that makes me, I am that. I can tell you that it works well and makes the day-to-day much easier to survive.
So there. If you are in my world... things are going to work out as long as you do the right thing, love them even more than they love you and take credit for your success knowing they were more luck than your own doings.