Several years ago I was in a very bad place and did a very stupid thing.
At the time there were over forty employees in the department I ran. All of them were road warriors, as was I. They flew out on Thursdays and returned on Sundays. Week after week traveling to a city then home only to fly out to another city the following Thursday.
I had just broken up with my live-in girlfriend at the time who cheated on me. I did not like myself very much and liked her even less. I had been living here in South Florida for only 14 months or so and had made no new friends. My travel schedule made "getting out and meeting new people" a tad tough.
Often I would do unscheduled "drop ins" on a city. One of my teams would be at a city, working, and I would show up unscheduled to audit their performance. On one of these trips I decided to take the team out for dinner which turned into drinks. One of the team members was a very friendly and attractive Columbian woman a few years my junior.
We all proceeded to get trashed at a piano bar in the hotel. Her and I proceeded to flirt more as the glasses got emptier. Flirting and making googly eyes rolled into deliberately excessive touching. I got up and went to the bathroom which was located outside of the bar and in the hotel lobby. As I left the restroom she was standing there.
Before either of us knew it, we were in my hotel room doing very bad things. The kind of things an employee and a supervisor are not supposed to do. She spent the night and fabricated a story to her coworker/roommate about staying at an old friend's house in the city.
For several weeks, when I was in the same city with her team, we would sneak off to indulge in our affair. People got suspicious and someone sent an anonymous email to the CEO. He asked me to come to his office and confronted me. I did not lie.
Once it was clear the affair was consenting sans any prid-quo-quo, I was reprimanded, handed a lower salary and allowed to continue in my role as the department head. She left the company a few months later of her own accord.
We caught up with each other a few months after she left and dated for several months. Being a complete asshole, I ended up getting back together with the ex-live-in girlfriend.
How did I break up with the never-did-anything-wrong ex-employee?
I stopped answering her calls and never called her back.
Because, at that time, I was less than half the person I should've been.